I usually keep my book reviews on
my other blog, but I just had to share this one here as well because it rocked. my. world. I've pasted the official review below, but this one really has some questions stuck in my head.
How can we help? How can we make sure what we're giving is actually helping? What kind of family do we want to be?
We've always been a tithing family (and have the goal of one day reverse tithing--living on 10 percent of our income, giving away 90). But we also know that we could always do more. I don't know about y'all, but, for us, there's a constant tension between materialism and doing more for others--especially now that we have a kid on the way.
"Don't get me wrong: money is not a bad thing...But spend, spend, spend becomes a brutal way to raise kids; they start to believe that everything is replaceable or that everything costs the same amount. An ever-escalating standard of living becomes the New Normal, something they grow accustomed to."
I'm kind of passionate about not sending our kid into a tailspin of wanting (because that happens so easily to me!), and this book is a great resource for a variety of practical ways to help as well as ways to think through how you're giving.
That's where we are right now--in the thinking/researching/brainstorming stage. But I like action, so, even though it's a very small start--I started by giving away half of my hair. :P
The Power of Half by Kevin and Hannah Salwen
Doing with a little less ourselves can improve the lives of people surviving on less than a dollar a day.
Sometimes when I like a book this much, it's hard not to just gush in the review. So I'm going to try not to do that, but I make no promises. ;)
The Salwen family had always been aware of others' misfortunes and eager to help. However, probably as for many of us, this often came in the form of writing a check...
As necessary as financial gifts may be, they didn't resonate with our kids. We parents might have been feeling good, but our kids weren't feeling much of anything.
Their paradigm shift began when they were sitting at a traffic light, and their daughter noticed a homeless man sitting on the corner and another man driving a black Mercedes convertible. She pointed out that if the driver had a less expensive car, the homeless man could have a meal.
Instead of getting into complicated economics or social theory, her parents embraced her concern for others, and the family started researching, discussing, and brainstorming about what they could do to help.
They decided to sell their house and give away half of the money.
Kevin and Hannah take readers through their family's process, including deciding what they did not want to do...
We presumed that involvement would reflect what Westerners traditionally see as their role. We'd be digging wells or laying bricks or painting walls. We'd be working side by side with Africans, spending our money and our time catalyzing brighter futures for them...But then we read and learned....mission and service trips often have a negative long-term impact on the very people they are aiming to serve--not positive, not even neutral, but negative...Unless service trips empower local people in some important way, they do little but help to foster dependence.
And discussing what they learned and how their family changed through the process...
I realized how much tougher that kind of transformation is than digging a well and moving on to the next community. For the villagers, real change requires teamwork, shared sacrifice, and faith in one another. For the nonprofit groups, these efforts take time, consistency, reinforcement, patience. This is not aid; it is metamorphosis.
Kevin writes the main part of the chapters, and Hannah's "take" on things is included at the end. She gives readers--especially younger ones--some practical advice of how to find their own way to help and make a difference in the lives of others.
That's another thing I loved--they stress that they are not suggesting that everyone sell their house and give away half of the money. The book never comes across as preachy, but they do point out two main things. They discuss that most of us can give more than we are giving, and they talk about why we should be doing that.
Again, I loved the book. It's a quick read, a compelling story, and full of practical advice if you want to impact others in a similar way.
For more information, check out their
website.